Often, we start with doing. A few months ago, I was working with a senior engineering leader about his massive to-do list and how to stay on track. The decisions in front of him weren’t clear. Should he do some of these things, none of them, all of them?
Sometimes the best results come when we don't look for them head-on. Arguing to prove a point? My best resolutions come from ignoring whether I'm right or wrong, assuming great intentions, and seeking to understand and accept before saying anything more. Meditating to get calm? It never works for me.
On defining standards so that they are lightweight, easier to hit, and draw us in rather than pushing us away.
People often ask, "What do you do with your clients?" The most direct answer is that I help people create the things they want by helping them understand and change their model of reality. What does that mean? Each of us contains a "model" that looks like the answers to
One of my favorite personal development techniques comes from a poster we had at Facebook in the early 2010s. The sign read, “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” A meme went around the office to answer this question and post it for your coworkers to see. Mine
The question “How much is coaching worth?” should be inverted. Instead, ask, “How do I find a coach who helps me get the most value from my life?”
"What is coaching?" – "How do I find a coach?" - "What kind of coaching do I need?" – "How do I know if I should hire you?" I often get these questions from friends, readers, and potential clients. This article explores these questions to clarify what I do for readers and
One of my friends is the CTO of a successful tech company and a diligent reader. I was texting with him earlier this week and asked him what he might like to read in my newsletter in the future. Instead of naming a work or development topic, he surprised me
Often, during my work, I ask “What do you want?” and the wonderful person I am coaching responds, perhaps predictably, “I have no idea!” I have been there too. This happens all the time in my own coaching with my coach Chris. Why do we lose our ability to call
Last night I sent an exercise to a client that may be useful for you. First, some context on this person: He has achieved top 10 in the world status in more than one area.He struggles to push himself.It's time for him to become number one and redefine