Essays
Change Your Models, Change Your World
People often ask, "What do you do with your clients?" The most direct answer is that I help people create the things they want by helping them understand and change their model of reality. What does that mean? Each of us contains a "model" that looks like the answers to
How Much is Coaching Worth?
The question “How much is coaching worth?” should be inverted. Instead, ask, “How do I find a coach who helps me get the most value from my life?”
Advising vs Deep Coaching — Which One Is for You and Why?
"What is coaching?" – "How do I find a coach?" - "What kind of coaching do I need?" – "How do I know if I should hire you?" I often get these questions from friends, readers, and potential clients. This article explores these questions to clarify what I do for readers and
To Be Happy, Dissolve Your Story
One of the most valuable things I can do for my own happiness is to dissolve the story given to me by the narrator in my brain. Who is the narrator? I use this term to describe the biased, judging part of my brain which looks at the stream of
Your Thoughts Are Just a Lousy Compression of Reality
An overview of some of the recent work I've been doing inspired by Bryon Katie and Michael Neill.
Normal Life vs Fantastic Life: Choose Your Time Horizon Carefully
Your time horizon can be the difference between becoming a drug addict or a billionaire. Choose wisely.
On Coming from Being vs Doing
Often, we start with doing. A few months ago, I was working with a senior engineering leader about his massive to-do list and how to stay on track. The decisions in front of him weren’t clear. Should he do some of these things, none of them, all of them?
Strength to Carry With You
Sometimes the best results come when we don't look for them head-on. Arguing to prove a point? My best resolutions come from ignoring whether I'm right or wrong, assuming great intentions, and seeking to understand and accept before saying anything more. Meditating to get calm? It never works for me.
"Where there is no standard, there can be no kaizen."
On defining standards so that they are lightweight, easier to hit, and draw us in rather than pushing us away.
