Essays
On Coming from Being vs Doing
Often, we start with doing. A few months ago, I was working with a senior engineering leader about his massive to-do list and how to stay on track. The decisions in front of him weren’t clear. Should he do some of these things, none of them, all of them?
Change Your Models, Change Your World
People often ask, "What do you do with your clients?" The most direct answer is that I help people create the things they want by helping them understand and change their model of reality. What does that mean? Each of us contains a "model" that looks like the answers to
What's Behind Your Largest Fear?
One of my favorite personal development techniques comes from a poster we had at Facebook in the early 2010s. The sign read, “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” A meme went around the office to answer this question and post it for your coworkers to see. Mine
How Much is Coaching Worth?
The question “How much is coaching worth?” should be inverted. Instead, ask, “How do I find a coach who helps me get the most value from my life?”
What You Want as a Direction, Not a Target
Often, during my work, I ask “What do you want?” and the wonderful person I am coaching responds, perhaps predictably, “I have no idea!” I have been there too. This happens all the time in my own coaching with my coach Chris. Why do we lose our ability to call
To Be Happy, Dissolve Your Story
One of the most valuable things I can do for my own happiness is to dissolve the story given to me by the narrator in my brain. Who is the narrator? I use this term to describe the biased, judging part of my brain which looks at the stream of
Your Thoughts Are Just a Lousy Compression of Reality
An overview of some of the recent work I've been doing inspired by Bryon Katie and Michael Neill.
Proving vs Expressing Yourself: A Mindset Shift to Unlock Creativity
On the freedom that comes from viewing life as creative expression vs as a journey of accomplishment and proof.
Normal Life vs Fantastic Life: Choose Your Time Horizon Carefully
Your time horizon can be the difference between becoming a drug addict or a billionaire. Choose wisely.
Seeing My Awareness Like a Camera
A useful perspective I have adopted is to think of my awareness like a camera. A camera does not experience all of a space — just the parts of the space that it happens to be pointed toward – and a camera does not remember everything that happens — just what it ends
